Its a very large read, but I'm sure I can find myself in a lot of those.
Normally I try to go at a very hard pace. From dirtbiking, your trying to go 100% all the time, so I try to use the same thing with grappling. I don't crank peoples arms or anything, but I don't like staying in the same place, I love staying active and not resting for a split second. I get really bored of anyone laying on top of me, so I gotta try hard to get them moving
I also love trying out the technique I might have learned that they to make sure its in my game.
Happy training!